Ruby’s are red, violets are blue…

And if you listen to The Sugar Baby Confessionals, you’ll be filled with ecstasy too!

Welp.

Looks like Hallmark won’t lose any sleep over our Valentine’s Day rhymes. 😉

It’s not been so very many months since we released our first episode of season 1, and the response has been utterly amazing.

We’ve had so much great feedback from so many quarters, that, with more than 22K downloads, we’re feeling very loved up indeed.

According to journalists and BBC broadcasters Bibi Lynch, Alix Fox and Rob Crossan, The Sugar Baby Confessionals is: “beguiling and off-kilter”, “thought-provoking”, “charming, funny and candid”. Sara DaSilva of Audible Feast said: “I am highly addicted to this show right now… I just love it.”

And writer Antonia Reed says: “The Confessionals quickly becomes a deep exploration of sexuality, psychology, romance and loyalty, and of the many things that complicate these aspects of life…Absolutely vital listening.”

We have a deep, burning passion for our listeners, especially those who leave reviews and pass on word about how much fun TSBC is.

It’s something a lot of small, indie podcasters bang on about, and the reason is, most of us aren’t earning a lot of money from making lovely, free podcasts. The hours of work we put in, most of the time, are done because we’re obsessed with crafting incredible audio.

FOR YOU, OUR HONOURED FRIENDS.

Good reviews are one of the few ways for us to raise awareness of our work and reach more people.

So go on, recommend us to a loved one this Valentine’s Day…and guarantee them 15 hours of hilarity, poignant sweetness with a healthy dose of sauce.

Hear are some more lovely reviews to inspire you into even greater flights of fancy…

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So join us in a bit of self love, HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY all you sexy people!

XXX

Sara-Mae

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Producer Sara-Mae on Bibi does Soho show

We’re delighted that Sara-Mae is getting a chance to natter with queen of the airwaves Bibi Lynch on her marvellous Soho Radio show.

We’ll be chatting about season 1: The Sugar Baby Confessionals, plus developments with season 2, so look out for that.

Also on will be BBC Radio presenter Jo Good talking about her new podcast Dogs and The City, and comedian Phil Nichol will be discussing his Your Wrong tour.

Also… be sure to prime yourself by listening to the hilarious episode of Bibi’s Metro podcast Good Sex Bad Sex with ex-sex worker and comedian Miranda Kane. It features sugar baby heroine Ruby indulging in a titillating (or tintillating? You’ll have to listen to the podcast to get that in-joke) tête-à-tête –

Transcripts coming soon!

We’re working on making transcripts available for all the episodes, but, with each one being roughly an hour long, this is a process.

We really want to put the extra work into the scripts so we can evoke the feeling of the podcast for those who can’t hear the music or the finer nuances you get from being able to hear the actual voices.

In the meantime, you can go to our YouTube channel and turn on the subtitles for a sense of what we discuss.

Lots of love,

Sara-Mae

Episode 15 – The cookie crumbles

“He doesn’t love me, he doesn’t want me, he doesn’t need me?”

Two and a half years after starting our conversations, and one year since we last recorded, Ruby takes stock of the effect of the sugar baby experience on her life. There are tears and laughter in this final episode, as we hear Ruby bare ALL.
This climactic finale has Ruby breaking down, as she reveals the difficult choices she made in the name of love?have she and FP broken up? Is The Brit still a fixture in her life?

Find out in the final episode of The Sugar Baby Confessionals.

Music in this episode:

Laish –https://laishmusic.com

Kristen McClement – https://kristinmcclement.bandcamp.com

Mock Deer (Ricky Damiani) ? From his ep ‘How We Used To Live’ https://mockdeer.bandcamp.com

Laura Frances ? ‘Safe from me’ https://laurafrances.bandcamp.com/releasesor https://soundcloud.com/laura_frances(Fun fact: Sara-Mae duets on this demo track)

Scarlet Starlings – https://scarletstarlings.com? look out for their new album in 2019

 

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Episode 14 – Plum Duff

Madelaine updates us on what’s she’s been up to a year since we last spoke. She’s bought a house and lives independently with her cat in the suburbs. Well, not quite independently. There’s still a very important person lingering on in her life… can you guess who?

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Episode 13 – Tipsy Tart Part 2

(Theme: Feminism and mental health)

We chat to Lauren, a psychologist and feminist, on the possible psychological effects of sex work on the sugar babies. Then journalist and broadcaster Bibi Lynch and ex-sex worker and comedienne Miranda Kane from the Good Sex Bad Sex podcast talk internet dating, incels, unsolicited tit pics, Cat Person, millennial sex, everyday sexism and why we should combat sex worker stigma.

It.

Is.

Fire! 

Guests

Bibi Lynch

Miranda Kane

The Good Sex Bad Sex podcast

Notes:

Shana Vrangalova Ph.D., Psychology Today,‘Do Sex Workers Have More Mental Health Problems?’, https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/strictly-casual/201410/do-sex-workers-have-more-mental-health-problems

Rossler W, Koch U, Lauber C, Hass A-K, Altwegg M, Ajdacic-Gross V, Landolt K. (2010). The mental health of female sex workers. (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20105147)Acta Psychiatrica Scandinavica, 122, 143?152. Doi:10.1111/j.1600-0447.2009.01533.x [free pdf– https://www.collegium.ethz.ch/fileadmin/autoren/pdf_papers/10_roessler_sexwork.pdf%5D

‘Beyond The Gaze’ ? University of Leicester: https://www2.le.ac.uk/news/blog/2018-archive/january/largest-study-of-uk-online-sex-work-highlights-findings-and-recommendations

‘Reviewing the occupational risks of sex workers in comparison to other ‘risky’ professions’ – July 2017 by Professor Teela Sanders; Stewart Cunningham; Dr Lucy Platt; Pippa Grenfell; Dr PG Macioti

https://www2.le.ac.uk/departments/criminology/people/teela-sanders/briefingpapersexworkandmentalhealth.pdf

Jessie Sage, Men’s Health, May 16, 2018: ‘4 Sex Workers on What They’ve Learned About Men’s Mental Health’: Https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a20717745/sex-workers-on-mens-mental-health/

For more information on how to get help for anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues, please check out our list of resources. If you would like to locate treatment services in your area, call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration Treatment Referral Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

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The Sugar Baby Confessionals: Tipsy Tarts (Feminism): the facts

Fancy learning a bit more about the feminist topics covered in episodes 12 and 13? Here are some references and further reading inspired by our Tipsy Tarts episodes:

• 4 March 2018. “Frances McDormand Wins the Oscar for Lead Actress 2018 [HD].” YouTube. Available at: www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DCH4y5CgTo. [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Bindel, J. in Lee, L. Bindel, J.; Corvid, M.; Gupta, R. (24 March 2015). “Should it be illegal to pay for sex? Panel verdict”. The Guardian [online]. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/mar/24/should-it-be-illegal-to-pay-for-sex-work-law-northern-ireland [Accessed 4 April 2018]
• Greenfieldboyce, N. (5 September 2008) “Morning Edition: Pageant Protest Sparked Bra-Burning Myth”. NPR [online]. Available at: https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=94240375 [Accessed 17 April 2018]
• Bindel, J. (11 October 2017) “Why prostitution should never be legalised”. The Guardian [online]. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/oct/11/prostitution-legalised-sex-trade-pimps-women [Accessed 4 April 2018]
• Nordic Model Now! “What is the Nordic Model?”. Available at: https://nordicmodelnow.org/what-is-the-nordic-model/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Glass, A. (2017) “Alice Glass challenges three common myths in the prostitution debate”. Available at: https://nordicmodelnow.org/2017/12/08/alice-glass-challenges-three-common-myths-in-the-prostitution-debate/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Nordic Model Now! (2016) “FACT: Prostitution is inherently violent”. Available at: https://nordicmodelnow.org/facts-about-prostitution/fact-prostitution-is-inherently-violent/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Nordic Model Now! “MYTH: Regulation makes prostitution safe”. Available at: https://nordicmodelnow.org/myths-about-prostitution/myth-regulation-makes-prostitution-safe/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Nordic Model Now! (2017) “How to Spot an Illegal Brothel”. Available at: https://nordicmodelnow.org/2017/04/06/how-to-spot-an-illegal-brothel/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• White, P. (3 November 2015) “Remembering the murdered women erased by the pro-sex work agenda”. Feminist Current [online]. Available at: https://www.feministcurrent.com/2015/11/03/remembering-the-murdered-women-erased-by-the-pro-sex-work-agenda/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• McDonald, H. (9 February 2018) “Irish sex worker and campaigner for rights of prostitutes dies, aged 39”. The Guardian [online]. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/feb/09/laura-lee-irish-sex-worker-and-campaigner-for-rights-of-prostitutes-dies-aged-39 [Accessed 4 April 2018].
• Savage, D. (8 September 2015) “Let’s Decriminalize Sex Work” Episode 463. [podcast]. Savage Lovecast. Available at: https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/guest/german-lopez#.WyemWRL-iu4 [Accessed 6 April 2018].
• Lopez, G. (8 August 2015). “The case for decriminalizing prostitution”. Vox [online]. Available at: https://www.vox.com/2015/8/18/9166669/why-legalize-prostitution [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• Schutte, G. (27 November 2012) “C is for Cunt”. Ms Magazine [online]. Available at: http://msmagazine.com/blog/2012/11/27/c-is-for-cunt/ [Accessed 6 April 2018]
• “Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act”. Available at: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stop_Enabling_Sex_Traffickers_Act [Accessed 13 April 2018]
• Thrasher, SW. (29 March 2018) “Sexual freedom is at risk from these damning new bills passed by Congress”. The Guardian [online]. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/mar/29/sexual-freedom-fosta-sosta [Accessed 13 April 2018]
• Savage, D. (10 April 2018). “Mistress Matisse on the Dreadful SESTA/FOSTA Bill” Episode 598. [podcast]. Savage Lovecast. Available at: https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/598#.WyeptxL-iu4 [Accessed 13 April 2018].
• Smith, M. (6 March 2018) “If sex workers can’t advertise online, it forces them on to the street”. The Guardian [online]. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/mar/06/sex-workers-advertise-online-pop-up-brothels-criminalised [Accessed 13 April 2018]
• @ConnerHabib (Conner Habib). 26 February 2018. “1 Hi everyone, Quick breakdown of why it’s such utter bullshit that celebrities like @sethmeyers are promoting the Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act, (SESTA)…” Twitter. Available at: https://twitter.com/connerhabib/status/968217463073591296?lang=en

 

Suffragette City? Sugar Baby Confessionals – the Feminists episodes

2018 marks 100 years of Women’s Suffrage. What would our female forebears have thought of the Sugar Baby lifestyle? And let’s not forget that some women don’t have a choice about working in the sex industry. Join the discussion as Sara-Mae, Ruby and Madeline chat to some very special guests in our two feminist episodes.

[photo credit: Rene Böhmer on Unsplash]

Feminism: (mass noun) The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

How does the Feminist Flag fly with the Sugar Baby lifestyle? Do you know your stats on Suffrage and sex work? And can you guess what Madeline’s Masters thesis was all about?

Episode 12: Tipsy Tarts – Feminism: part 1

Listen in as we explore the implications of sugar-babying and sex work. Our sister-in-arms, Katherine Hofmeyr, is our special MC, introducing this week’s entertaining panel discussion between Sara-Mae, Ruby and Madeline! But she’s no bystander – pulling the girls up on a series of issues, not least about how the Holly Golightly/Pretty Woman ideal matches up against the reality of sex working. Just sayin’!

Join us for an enlightening discussion – and find out if decriminalizing sex work in the Netherlands, Germany and New Zealand has made any difference to the safety of the women involved in the sex industry.

About our MC

Katherine is a Johannesburg-based writer, editor, sometime film critic and badass feminist. She would most like to be remembered as a bestselling novelist, little-known jazz singer and perhaps someone’s favourite aunt. Since she is yet to write anything publishable, confines her euterpean interludes to karaoke bars, and sees no sign of either of her brothers breeding in the near future, all these remain but distant dreams.

Check out our Feminism references and reading material.

Listen to the Tipsy Tarts episode on our Libsyn site

Episode 12 – Tipsy Tart (Part 1)

Episode 12: Tipsy Tart I (Theme: Feminism & sex work)

Guest host (and general badass) Katherine Hofmeyr bravely takes the role of feminist policewoman to referee our discussion of feminism and how it relates to the sugar babies. Are the sugar babies reclaiming the word ‘whore’? We talk #metoo, #notallmen, Harvey Weinsten, the Nordic Model, the SESTA/FOSTA bill, the pros and cons of decriminalizing sexwork?plus 1980s cartoons. You can’t afford not to listen to this fiery conversation.

Links and notes

You can find all of Katherine’s references on a downloadable document on our website fablegazers.com.

Plus: Episode 598 of Savage Lovecast: https://www.savagelovecast.com/episodes/tag?t=mistress+matisse#.WyqI8i2ZPVo

German Lopez: ‘The case for decriminalizing prostitution’: https://www.vox.com/2015/8/18/9166669/why-legalize-prostitution

nordicmodelnow.org

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Episode 11 – Summer Berry Grunt

Theme: Cracks

Ruby updates us on what’s happening with her, FP and the Brit. With her marriage on the verge of breakdown, she has realised that she is polyamourous and in love with both the Brit and FP. FP is deeply unhappy about this. Can they find a way to make it work?

Notes:

The book Ruby mentions is: More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux

https://www.amazon.co.uk/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706

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